Just a reminder: if you have 1,500+ friends listed in your profile and you send me a friend request without ever having commented on my blog before, don't expect a reply. At least, not a polite one.

Gosh ... and you are somebody's Valentine I guess!
Did you send red roses?
Je suis d'accord!!

ROFL... I may have to copy this ...

I have!

Well, gee. I just click Reject. Maybe I should rethink this....

I think that's all you can do, Leslie aside from Accept, of course.

Is there even a comment box in which to respond? The rejection letter would have to be sent in Message ;))

Do you mean you expect me to make comments!!!! Stroll on mate , I don`t volunteer to put my head in the proverbial mousetrap....viv

Bravo, David.

i agree with you...too much stupid for a joke.

Arf !
Ok ! Dan ... David ... Tomie ...

All joking or not joking aside this is the way I see it.

There's nothing wrong with accepting all requests that come from those who appear to have legitimate blogs, at least that's what I'm prone to do.

However, I've rejected those who've just joined that day and haven't even posted photos, avatar or profile information, or those in which the entire content of the blog is something in which I have no interest. For example, ALL of their posts and photos are of scantily clad girls on the beach. Others might enjoy that, and I say if you do, "go for it," but it's just not my cup of tea.

Also, there are those who are obviously just in it to advertise their products and locate buyers. Makes sense that it is prudent to be discriminating and not to click "Accept" just because someone asks.

Scantily clad guys on the beach...well, I'd have to think on that one ;))

My policy also, Marsha. Except the men on the beach consideration.

Where did you see the scantily clad girls on the beach Marsha?

Hahaha....good one, ArtBee!!

Guess on this one you'll just have to use your imagination?? ;))

If you have 1,500+ friends listed in your profile and you send me a friend request without ever having commented on my blog before, that's okay. Do you post photographs I want to view? Do you comment just as much as you receive comments? If so, I have no problem accepting you as a friend. The folks I have a problem with are the ones who accept comments but never take the time to view my blog and comment; I'm not selfish, but a relationship goes both ways~ even a "relationship" on a social network!

Noted! ))

Here's another attempt:

"Dear Artistic Soulmate,

I am truly touched by the care, consideration and appreciation you have shown for my blog. My artwork must leave you speechless or stricken with Stendahl syndrome and I'm just amazed you managed to move your mouse to click on "Befriend" so that I would be included among that select group of 1,500 intimates honoured to be called your friend.

To be honest, I don't feel worthy enough and will have to eke out a miserable existence without the benefits and joy that your friendship brings.

I will always cherish your kind and thoughtful gesture. In this day and age friendship is a priceless jewel that you have demonstrated so well here.

Gushingly,

Revenant"


The wording needs a little tightening up to express the depth of feeling commensurate with the gesture.

Post some %*&^$** photos for the friends you do have to admire!!!

instead of being sarcastic or mocking I prefer to accept all friend requests that I think are honest and then erase if they are not nice or disappoint me as I did for someone.

On the other side of the coin, Most of the friends on my list are folks that I have asked to be part of my friend's list. I am thankful that the majority of them have accepted.

I will drop people from the list if there is no reciprocal activity for a long period of time. First I will stop commenting on their posts regularly, then I will eventually fade them out altogether.
It happens sometime. It's OK

Then there are folks who because of other circumstance fall from my list or I from theirs. It happens sometime. It's OK

But - I must confess that I have 4 or 5 people on my friend's list who I have asked to be my friend and they have never commented on any of my posts after they have accepted. I hold on to them because I like their work and even if they never comment on my posts, I enjoy what they post.

I also see these 4 or 5 people as personal challenges to one day have them comment on my posts. It adds some intrigue and fun to the PB experience. I have had some success and I am continuing to work hard to get them to establish some level of comment/response relationship with me. It is a somewhat humbling exercise - but that sometimes is needed.

It is OK!!!

Hey - we all need to have goals.

Hello people, am new here, would love some friends.

Hahahaha! Thanks for the great illustration of a request that won't work well on PB! Hahahahaha.

A picture is worth a thousand words - or lack of a picture is worth a hundred words.

And lack of any data on your profile is worth zero words.

This was a really great entry to the thread.

Thanks for the spoof!

And if not a spoof - post some pictures and info. Maybe someone will take you up on your offer!

hahahahahaha

As yet, you have not posted!
Have you commented?

I'm confused... am I supposed to be sarcastic and condescending or humble and accepting?

@Marsha
I have a really good imagination!......

@bumpusdogs
Take your pick. It all depends on the response you would like to receive.....

I like the humble and accepting approach best of all.

Humility takes less energy and ignoring takes even less.

I comment daily all that posts on my FL and when I get new requests for friend I check out their blog. If it interests me I take them on and sometimes even if they don't I take them on because they write a little message on the friends request that they want to follow my pictures. So far so good ...but then they never comment or anything so I don't know if the "follow" me or not. Anyway as long as they don't make any fuss it don't bother me have them on my list. Maybe many just like to look and like with out saying.
But of course I get a little tired sometimes of never get response from some I comment daily and I wonder why they wanted to be friends if they don`t really care for my pictures.

Rather a few good friends then a list of 1500 you never hear from
Most of them I have on my list are great people and I focus on them and the others ...well

Anyone know the story of the man sitting by the door in a pub? Four people leave the door open after he politely asks them to shut it. It's the fifth who catches the wrath deserved by the first four.

I've been getting quite a few friend requests (all from the same part of the world, funnily enough) from people I've never heard of, none of whom have commented on my posts before and without rhyme or reason. They all have hundreds (thousands) of friends., so I hope they can do without me.

After rejecting three or four with a reasonable comment in their guest book, I vented my irritation here. Needless to say, I wouldn't write this message to people whose first language appears not to be English. The whole purpose of irony is that it must be understood.

This thread was my honed, polished venom-therapy. It's also further proof, if such were needed, that we'll talk just about anything here! Oh, and add a few snide remarks and then withdraw horns (thanks for the tip-off, friend).

Stefan, I remember you were my first friend here on PB. I guess I asked you to be my friend on my first day here -loved your shots and knew there is a lot to learn from you And you helped me a lot - you were very kind to me!
Actually everybody here has been very kind to me and that is what makes this place so unique.

So when someone asks to be my friend I always accept. I weed through my friends list from time to time, because I want to be able to visit and follow my friends blogs - so when someone does not post on their blog for a long time I ussualy let go.

I have twice sent a message to see if someone who hasn't posted in awhile is O.K.
Both replied.

Marilyn,
If I ever do not post before 10:00 AM Eastern Standard Time, will you please message me to see if I am OK???
;-)))) A wink and a smile for fun!!!! hahahaha

Only if you tell me a story!

@ marilyn - you bet. You name the the topic and I'll tell the story!

I would like to announce that I would welcome being asked by someone with 1500 friends to befriend them. I'm not kidding -
If you are out there - please ask me and I will accept. I would consider you a trophy friend!

The best thing is - you won't even have to comment on any of my posts - really. Seriously!

Now - the really good news is that today I actually received a response from one of the non-responsive friends that I mentioned earlier in this thread. I am not kidding. It was a nice comment and I am hoping that the relationship will grow. If not - I got one! Yipee! Wow!

Really don`t see a problem, we all exercise choice....and if we make a mistake zap em off ur list. )

@pandp
Lmao!! Thank you. Funny stuff. I needed that this evening.

...this is a good topic ... well, I hereby all "Friends" I delete, Who can not interest my photos, in my opinions.
Please ignore be offended )

To be a friend, or not to be......that is the question?

Make new friends......keep the old......one is Silver.....the other is Gold.

Keep your friends close......your enemies even closer.

When does a friend cease to be a friend?

Now what about those 'commenters' who just say 'beautiful', 'fantastic'? There seem to be so many of them. Do we take them seriously?

"When does a friend cease to be a friend?

When you tell him something for his own good!

1) The crux of this thread, for me, is that everybody's friend is nobody's friend!
2) You are known by the friends you keep.
3) The best way to find a friend is to be one.
4) I prefer friends with faults than those without.
5) We cherish our friends, not for their ability to amuse us, but for our ability to amuse them.

@ Jothindra -
Your work is "fantastic"

i would have said "awesome"

Love it!

@tomie - I thought you would have said "arf"...
or at most "arfsome"

@Artbee
You really brought this thread back to life with your "babes on the beach" shot! Very IMAGINATIVE!!!

Friends

Does that mean we`re banning the word `awesome`.....tee hee.)

@ Viv: don't torture me.
@ Jon: it's sad statement on the "friend request" that all we can't add your youtube criteria in the pop-up window.

If you want friends.....be friendly
A friend in need....is a friend indeed