by Calum Park August. 16, 2016 954 views

So this is no longer a photo a day blog! Instead I'll just be posting when I want (I'm pretty busy - and quality over quantity!)

On Monday night I went to see 'Embrace' at the cinema - a documentary film responding to the fact that 90% of women are ''highly dissatisfied'' with their bodies. The film details how our culture and media make us (I feel the film struck a chord for male and female body image) feel like we are not good enough and will never be fulfilled in life unless we conform to the idealised form of beauty. That to truly be beautiful females need to be slender, have big boobs, perfect teeth and pimple-free skin. Or to be masculine you need to be strong and insensitive.

And the film really made me question why I hold some of the beliefs that I have. Why do I often judge people on their appearance when it is the one thing they cannot change? And why would I do that to myself too?

Our society has such a huge impact on our beliefs and actions. Films like these really make me question what judgements and beliefs we have of ourselves, other people and how we want to live our life simply because that is what we are used to.

Sometimes I feel like I'm going along with life without really having a voice in the matter. It's not what I really want to do, it's what I think I should do in order to be seen as a success. 

And these films give me the bravery to step back a little and think why do I believe the things that I do and do the things that I do. Is this what I want to do or what society expects of me?

We are taught beauty is smooth skin, glowing eyes, a tall, slim figure. 

We are taught masculinity is physical and emotional strength and resilience. That being weak is a failure.

We are taught being a success requires constant, relentlessness ambition for more.

We are taught and exposed to this all our lives through the media, advertising, school, the government... the list is endless. This film really opened up the idea to me that I can choose not to believe it.

I believe BEAUTY is saying NO to what you are taught, saying NO to the idea you have to be x,y and z to live a happy, successful and fulfilling life. There is something beautiful in CHOOSING to love yourself, not to judge others as we have become so used to and to CHOOSING to live differently to our social norm if you want to.

We have a choice as to what we accept from society and what we reject. And that choice is a beautiful thing and could have beautiful consequences.

What do you think?

Choosing My Perspective

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Alyson Urquhart 4 years, 10 months ago

Totally agree Calum, my motto and song says it all. I believe everyone has something to contribute, regardless of shape , size , culture , sexuality , age.
I am my own person, if I'm liked for that, great but if I'm not, I am what I am.

I am what I am
I am my own special creation
So come take a look
Give me the hook or the ovation
It's my world that I want to have a little pride in
My world and it's not a place I have to hide in
Life's not worth a damn till you can say
Hey world I am what I am
I am what I am
I don't want praise
I don't want pity
I bang my own drum
Some think it's noise
I think it's pretty
And so what if I love each feather and each spangle
Why not try and see things from a different angle
Your life is a sham till you can say
Hey world I am what I am

I am what I am
And what I am needs no excuses
I deal my own deck
Sometimes the ace
Sometimes the deuces
It's my life and there's no return and no deposit
One life, so it's time to open up your closet
Life's not worth a damn till you can say
Hey world I am what I am

4 years, 10 months ago Edited
Calum Park Replied to Alyson Urquhart 4 years, 10 months ago

So true!

4 years, 10 months ago Edited