A lot has changed in the nearly nine years my wife and I have been together. We met while each of us was living in the city (Seattle), we now share a home in the suburbs. She was 25 years old and I was 27, I'll let you do the math. We had only ourselves and one another to take care of, and now we have two little boys that keep us busy. Our lives today only vaguely resemble those we had in the beginning of our relationship. Yet, one thing that hasn't changed is how I see her.
I frequently remark to her that she's still that girl I met at that wedding all those years ago, with all of the wisdom of the years since (see my blog about our story). She's still the beautiful, joyous, boisterous person that gobsmacked me when I least expected it. As the years go by, she increasingly reacts to these statements with skepticism. If I try to view things from her perspective, I can see why she finds it difficult to believe. She's a full-time mom of small children, with all the glamour you might expect. I often struggle to articulate how her baggy sweatpants, unwashed hair, and physical exhaustion do nothing to alter my view of her.
She is an amazing person and an incredibly supportive partner. Frequently, despite her exhaustion, she will serve as my photo subject so that I can continue to practice and experiment with new techniques. It was under the guise of such a practice session, that I set out to communicate how I see her vs. how she often sees herself.
Well-intended? Most definitely.
In any case, there are a couple of points I need to make before we proceed.
first: She is an amazing person inside and out, and it's been the entirety of who she is that has made her so beautiful and wonderful to me all of these years.
Second: even in the photos that more closely resemble what I believe to be her impression of herself, I had to eliminate the colors to make it more drab than I could get with the photos by itself. I think she's beautiful in all of them.
Here we go:
There are several more comparison shots that illustrate my point, but with the 5 photo limit, this will have to do.