When you come to Vietnam, for sure you will be bombarded with series of the following questions: first, if you are married, secondly, if this man/woman next to you is your husband/wife, next, when you want to get married and the last one would probably be if you came here on your honeymoon. So you smile and suddenly it's obvious that the man/woman who holds your hand is your husband/wife.^^
Family values, like respect, care, safety, and strong ties are still most important in the life of Vietnamese. Children and family stays in the first place, not only in Vietnam but in whole Asia. One can observe Familialism or familism is the ideology that puts priority to family and family values.
The big effect on family concept has a Confucian philosophy, which requires respecting elders and a proper celebration of ancestor worshipping, as well as carrying out their "filial duty". In accordance with its rules, children have to be subordinated to the parents and cannot dispute their opinion. The main responsibility of a wife should be to devote herself completely to her husband. Sending the grandparents to the retirement home is considered as an insult for the ancestors and a shame for the family.
In this region, and also in whole Asia, the local women from childhood are taught how to serve the men and not to complain about their own fate. In Vietnam, unfortunately the women still have a low status, should cook, get married, have children... A woman should be completly devoted to a man because the woman without a man is not functioning properly. However, the importance of women in Vietnam is much bigger than it might seems.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said: “A woman is like a tea bag – you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.”
The power of women is incredibly strong and we never should doubt it. A notable example can be Nguyễn Thị Kim Ngân, Vietnamese politician and the first woman who became the Chairwoman of the National Assembly of Vietnam. How multitasking is a woman of Vietnam and how many important tasks she has to do. At last, the woman has to be like multi-tasking robot. She must carry out hard work to survive everyday.
The women have a force to be reckoned with!