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by Shweta Mishra September. 30, 2017 1375 views

In a country like India, all women are obliged by the state, religion, pop culture, and whatnot.

Women cannot choose choices.

People (mostly in rural, remote areas of India) still don't believe in sending their girls to school.

It is this one section of the society that does not believe in getting their daughters educated.


Because they either fall under economically challenged groups OR probably because she would then learn and grow and give competition to 'men'...which is again, unacceptable in this 'patriarchal society'.

The idea of an 'Ideal Woman'—(Modern family with backward thinking..)

Surely, women are working and contributing to the economy. But, they're also expected to handle the household(s)...because if not...she isn't considered an 'Ideal Indian woman'.

There is no such thing as 'equal distribution of domestic responsibilities'.

Also, 'they' decide what we wear;

An inch of skin, that can be seen between my top and jeans..grabs the attention of people around me. They call me a 'slut'. But the six inches gap between my blouse and saree is ignored.

Note how a particular gender is being targeted, and of course, not to forget that wearing a 'saree' makes me an 'ideal woman'.

Sex stereotype & Gender roles;

"Khoob ladi mardaani, woh toh Jhansi waali rani thi", we have always been taught to fight like a 'man' and to sit like a 'woman'.

Taking examples of the Indian Television Commercials: we have always seen the man working hard and earning money, riding the bike, buying insurance. On the other hand, women in Maggie, Surf Excel (detergents) advertisements.

We've been told to stay within the 'boundary', behind the curtains, inside the room,

''Seclude yourself from public observation''

We've been told to dress appropriately,

We've been constantly reminded to come back home before sunset & to be more cautious while traveling,

We've been advised to be less aggressive and more polite, as women,

We've been taught to keep up with the beauty standards set up by society,

Beauvoir rightly said—

“One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.”
-Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex (1949)

A country can only develop when we put a stop to such social/religious practices. This patriarchal system of functioning has to be dissolved only then, we can dream of a better world.

We expect a better society
(breaking the stereotypes);

Tell your sons to respect women. Tell them that it's okay to wear pink and to wear skirts and to play with barbies. Tell them they can dance, gracefully. Tell them that it's okay to cry. And crying doesn't make them look weak. And that crying doesn't make them a 'woman'.
Tell your daughters to ride those heavy bikes and tell them to pay their own bills. Tell them to 'walk and fight' like a 'girl'. Tell them that they can be a rapper or a drummer! Tell them that it won't make them less ideal.

Tell them.

Go, tell them.

Merging; bold and beautiful

Merging; bold and beautiful

Look me in the eye, my inner goddess will fuck you up.

Look me in the eye, my inner goddess will fuck you up.

Laying peacefully

Laying peacefully



P.S: Simran, thank you for taking out time for this project. All my love to you.

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Rahul Patel 3 years, 3 months ago

#1 Agreed !!!...painfully every word is morally legit in what you have depicted of the current feminine situation.
But as your blog comes to the climax;right after" we need a better society",the world starts seeming so much better,safer,arranged,serene and blissful place.
Thank you for giving a needed direction to the society.we should keep doing all the Do's you have stated at the blog's end and Idealism for women will come like "fight like a woman and then rest like 'em before a fight ".

3 years, 3 months ago Edited
Shweta Mishra Replied to Rahul Patel 3 years, 3 months ago

Absolutely. Rahul, people will come out of their cocoons and talk and discuss openly about the struggles men and women face in the society. About sexuality, gender and race and class and the list goes on...dreaming and hoping for that day. We know is not that far ...

3 years, 3 months ago Edited
Ram Ya 3 years, 3 months ago

Thank you for sharing and speaking against what is unjust.
I was listening to Warren Buffet one day and he put it this way. When women are not contributing to the economy, the society is only at 50% of its economic capacity. 

Count me in as a follower to spread your posts.

3 years, 3 months ago Edited
Shweta Mishra Replied to Ram Ya 3 years, 3 months ago

Agreed. It's time this is drilled deep into peoples mind. Appreciate your appreciation, thank you very much. :)

3 years, 3 months ago Edited
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