In a country like India, all women are obliged by the state, religion, pop culture, and whatnot.
Women cannot choose choices.
People (mostly in rural, remote areas of India) still don't believe in sending their girls to school.
It is this one section of the society that does not believe in getting their daughters educated.
Because they either fall under economically challenged groups OR probably because she would then learn and grow and give competition to 'men'...which is again, unacceptable in this 'patriarchal society'.
The idea of an 'Ideal Woman'—(Modern family with backward thinking..)
Surely, women are working and contributing to the economy. But, they're also expected to handle the household(s)...because if not...she isn't considered an 'Ideal Indian woman'.
There is no such thing as 'equal distribution of domestic responsibilities'.
Also, 'they' decide what we wear;
An inch of skin, that can be seen between my top and jeans..grabs the attention of people around me. They call me a 'slut'. But the six inches gap between my blouse and saree is ignored.
Note how a particular gender is being targeted, and of course, not to forget that wearing a 'saree' makes me an 'ideal woman'.
Sex stereotype & Gender roles;
"Khoob ladi mardaani, woh toh Jhansi waali rani thi", we have always been taught to fight like a 'man' and to sit like a 'woman'.
Taking examples of the Indian Television Commercials: we have always seen the man working hard and earning money, riding the bike, buying insurance. On the other hand, women in Maggie, Surf Excel (detergents) advertisements.
We've been told to stay within the 'boundary', behind the curtains, inside the room,
''Seclude yourself from public observation''
We've been told to dress appropriately,
We've been constantly reminded to come back home before sunset & to be more cautious while traveling,
We've been advised to be less aggressive and more polite, as women,
We've been taught to keep up with the beauty standards set up by society,
Beauvoir rightly said—
“One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.”
-Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex (1949)
A country can only develop when we put a stop to such social/religious practices. This patriarchal system of functioning has to be dissolved only then, we can dream of a better world.
We expect a better society
(breaking the stereotypes);
Tell your sons to respect women. Tell them that it's okay to wear pink and to wear skirts and to play with barbies. Tell them they can dance, gracefully. Tell them that it's okay to cry. And crying doesn't make them look weak. And that crying doesn't make them a 'woman'.
Tell your daughters to ride those heavy bikes and tell them to pay their own bills. Tell them to 'walk and fight' like a 'girl'. Tell them that they can be a rapper or a drummer! Tell them that it won't make them less ideal.
Go, tell them.
P.S: Simran, thank you for taking out time for this project. All my love to you.